Blessings & Trials in Transition

     The thoughts of living simply and simply living seemed like a great break from the busyness of my life. 

No more lawn to mow.

No more maintenance of a whole house.

Smaller monthly bills.

Only keeping things that seem essential.

More time to write and think.

More time to spend with God and my husband.

All these things seemed like a glorious way to live.

     At first I was all in and then my gut said, “I don’t think so.” Knowing it’s wise to pay attention to a feeling in the pit of my stomach, I shared some concerns with my husband. This led to us putting the plans to sell our house and buy a camper to live in full time, on a back burner.

     Months later, the topic of selling our house seemed to repeatedly crop up in our minds and conversations. We began to seriously entertain the idea of putting our house on the market, without knowing what would be next, other than the town for which God was drawing our hearts to. 

We set a date to list the house.

Began to clean up the yard.

Started selling and giving away belongings we felt the need to let go of, or allow someone else to enjoy.

     Thirteen days before the house went ‘live’ on the market, we made the decision to purchase a camper. After looking at campers online and in person for a couple of years, we had finally found one with a floorplan and style for us. My husband and I actually saw it online about the same time and it stopped us both dead in our tracks. We loved it! 

     Without physically walking through the travel trailer, we committed to buying our next home based on what we saw by touring a similar model.

     Camper parked in the yard, waiting to be our movable home, we committed to sell our house. After one week of showings and four offers, we had a buyer.

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    My organized plans were ripped apart one after another, so was my security in those plans. By this time, God had shown me some of the things I had been placing my identity and security in. This included my well laid out plans.

     Through this incredibly revealing transition, I’ve come to let go of many things.

Belongings from loved ones who’ve passed.

My shelves of books.

Furnishings that filled the house.

And the thoughts that I have control over much.

    As our transition to full time camper living continued to become a reality, so have the trials. One after another. Small obstacles were doable in my own strength, so I thought, until one after another they wore me down to exhaustion. Becoming weary from the journey, the small hurdles became harder to manage by the time we reached moving weekend.

Trials in this transition:

My timeline not matching my husband’s.

Late start on moving day.

Blown tire on enclosed car trailer five minutes down the road.

The power cord for the camper too short for our campsite. Note: ninety-five percent of our food was in the camper refrigerator.

  Struggles to find an extension cord or parts to make one.

Miscommunication on my part for house key exchange with the new home owner.

Running out of daylight, time, and patience in getting our belongings out of the house on time.

Leveling the camper at midnight.

Cold showers after midnight.

My nesting impulse kicked in with no way to make our camper a home for two days.

Experiencing some mild depression with the large adjustment to our new lifestyle.

After seven nights of sleeping in the camper, we discovered our bed had broken and was causing flooring damage. Also, a brake and turn signal malfunction.

The brand new generator needed for the camper didn’t work. 

  Followed by a night with very little sleep because of low battery lights and an alarm going off.

  Struggles in getting a refund for the non-working specialty generator.

Expense and hassle of a two night stay in a hotel while our camper was over an hour away at the dealership for repairs.

  Upon arrival at the dealership, we found that a trim piece over the bedroom door had fallen to the floor in transit.

The first day at the hotel, I struggled with getting wifi to work for more than five minutes.

A few days after getting camper back, I dealt with stabbing chest pains and aches with tingling going down my arm. After a six hours ER stay and then a chiropractor appointment, it was found that I had a couple of ribs out of place.

WOW! That was a lot for a two week period of time!

What I want to focus on … blessings that occurred in that same two weeks.

Beautiful walks in nature.

Great time with my church family, experiencing their love and support.

Meeting a very sweet hotel clerk who I was able to bless.

Having dinner at one of our favorite restaurants and being able to bless our favorite server.

Looking back at all the friends and others we’ve been able to bless by our letting go of belongings.

God has sent reminders along the way to reinforce truths to my heart.

When I take my eyes off of Jesus, I start to sink.

Leaning on my own understanding leads to a worn out-exhausted Amy.

Seeking God and being present with him refuels my soul.

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REFLECTIONS

Reflecting on the celebrations of the Fourth of July look a little different for my family than other families. I have heard several times Happy Fourth or Happy Independence Day! While I celebrate the blessings of living in a ‘free’ land, I also grieve the loss of my son on this day. It’s with mixed emotions that I venture into this day. I am so grateful for my independence as a citizen of the USA and I am; at the same time, sad for the missing part of my family and grateful that I can know that Tad’s in the presence of our Heavenly Father and not spending eternity separate from Him. I hate that I can’t be with Tad and I miss him more than I can speak; however, truly he has always been God’s son first and mine second so I am thankful for the 22 short years that I had the privilege of being his mom. Of course, there were times when I really wanted to string him up by his toes because he pushed me to my breaking point; but I still loved him with all my heart.

Tad liked to live on the edge; of what, I don’t know but always on the edge. He loved much. He liked to make people laugh. And he always helped me to not take myself so seriously. Boy, I miss his hugs. (I know, random thought.) Anyway, grieving the loss of my son has been a journey in so many ways. I have seen God work in more ways than I could ever imagine. I have had people pray for me that I have never met. I have experienced a pain like no other pain I have ever experienced before; and at the same time, a love like no other because it comes from my Abba Father. Grief is a wild ride.

The reason that I share all of this today is because today; the Fourth of July 2022, marks eight years since my Tad went to be with the Lord because of a motorcycle accident. The day began with a celebration of my husband’s birthday. His birthday is July third and he had to work on that day so we; as a family, celebrated on the fourth. God blessed us with a fun day of playing with Emmett at the ‘frog park’; as he called it, and then we went shopping together. My husband took his Harley out for a ride while our kids and I made his favorite meal. After dinner, Tad went for a ride himself on his dad’s Harley. When he left for that ride, it was the last time we saw him. As anyone who has experienced something like this knows, the details of such days tend to be forever implanted in your mind. Sometimes they get a little jumbled, but they are there. Tad’s son Emmett was three years old when he lost his daddy. It’s been a journey for him as well. Emmett is now 11 years old and is so much like his dad. I know that Tad would be so proud of the man that he is becoming!

Emmett and I have had some interesting conversations where he shares with me his thoughts on things of life and I felt it fitting for him to share from his perspective.

Question: What do you wish people understood about what it’s like to be a young person whose lost his dad at a young age?

Emmett: It’s not easy only having one parent especially when the one that died was your best friend and the only one left you don’t really get along with.

Question: How is life without a dad to guide you through life?

Emmett: It can be hard at times. Sometimes I think it’s not fair. But I always remember this is all part of God perfect plan.

While the people around us celebrate with fireworks and parades, we just work to get through the day and remember how blessed we are for the loved ones that we still have with us today. One of the things that makes me smile is remembering how Tad would have been happy that he went to Heaven with a bang because fireworks were happening in the area of his accident. This may seem like a strange thing to smile about, unless you knew Tad.

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